6/22/15 10:30 am
kate: Aang from behind, looking at a starry night. (AtLA: Aang meditating)
[personal profile] kate
My day yesterday started with my second-oldest brother texting me and my two sisters about Dad. He's been gone for 11 years now, and I still miss him like an ache. All four of us texted back and forth for about half an hour before my brother had to go back to work.

I spared half a thought for my oldest brother, who was somewhat estranged from us, and wished we could've included him.

This morning I got a call from my oldest sister. My oldest brother died in his sleep last night. He was just about to turn 60 (next week). I don't even know what to say. I'm in shock, a little, but I have no information so the only thing I can do is wait. I'll keep working until I get more information about the services, etc., and then I'll fly home, I guess.

It hasn't really hit me too hard yet. I think I'll probably leave work a little early today, but more because I'm tired than anything. I don't expect for this to really hit me until the services, when I will see his wife (the reason for the estrangement) and his six kids and their families.

He's fifteen years older than me, so we were never really that close, though I spent one summer with him and his wife, babysitting/helping/whatever with his two oldest (when there were only two). His wife didn't like me. She didn't like any of us. I'm sure she'll be glad to be rid of us forever.

So, this is it. My first sibling dying. To tell you the truth, I kind of expected it to be my older sister, who smokes like a chimney. And my second-oldest brother smokes like a chimney and drinks like a fish. My oldest brother quit drinking and smoking. Makes me want to take up some bad habits.

Still not really up for answering comments (thank you all for hanging in there with me, I'm sorry I've been such a lousy dreamwidth-mate lately), but thanks, as always, for all your love and encouragement. You guys are the best.

(no need to answer)

on 6/22/15 02:35 pm (UTC)
forests_of_fire: A picture of a brilliantly colored waterfall cascading into a river (Default)
Posted by [personal profile] forests_of_fire
I'm so, so sorry. -offers a hug-

on 6/22/15 02:58 pm (UTC)
were_duck: Ellen Ripley from Alien looking pensively to the right in her space helmet (Default)
Posted by [personal profile] were_duck
Thinking of you. That is a tough situation.

on 6/22/15 02:58 pm (UTC)
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Posted by [personal profile] omens
Oh :( I'm sorry, guy. Family is hard. ((hugs))

on 6/22/15 03:07 pm (UTC)
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Posted by [personal profile] grammarwoman
I am so sorry for the rift in your family and your loss. *HUGS*

on 6/22/15 03:11 pm (UTC)
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Posted by [personal profile] mrshamill
I'm so sorry, babe. Life just gets harder the older we get. Thinking of you.

on 6/22/15 04:00 pm (UTC)
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Posted by [personal profile] angrboda
My condolences for your loss.

(Don't worry about replying later or not at all if you don't feel like doing so. Replies aren't important.)

on 6/22/15 05:13 pm (UTC)
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Posted by [personal profile] king_touchy
I'm sorry. You're in my thoughts.

on 6/22/15 05:36 pm (UTC)
kass: Eleven and Amy hug. (hug)
Posted by [personal profile] kass
I am also a youngest sibling (youngest of five) by 14 years, so much of what you've written here resonates for me personally.

Thinking of you.

on 6/22/15 09:47 pm (UTC)
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Posted by [personal profile] nanila
I'm so sorry. Hugs, shoulder-bumps and tea, as required.

on 6/22/15 10:45 pm (UTC)
marginaliana: Buddy the dog carries Bobo the toy (Default)
Posted by [personal profile] marginaliana
I'm so sorry. *big hug*

on 6/22/15 11:16 pm (UTC)
jesse_the_k: Peeled orange with one section pulled out (shared sweetness)
Posted by [personal profile] jesse_the_k
Oh my, that's so hard.

Sending warm thoughts your way, also excellent tea and oranges (that came all the way from China).

on 6/23/15 12:28 am (UTC)
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on 6/23/15 12:46 am (UTC)
andeincascade: (Candle)
Posted by [personal profile] andeincascade
So very sorry, Kate. I'll be thinking of you.

on 6/23/15 01:11 am (UTC)
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Posted by [personal profile] umadoshi
Much sympathy. ;_;

on 6/23/15 01:28 am (UTC)
scheherezhad: man hanging the sun in the sky above a building (gods)
Posted by [personal profile] scheherezhad
I'm so sorry, bb. *hugs and hugs*

on 6/23/15 02:12 am (UTC)
umbo: B-24 bomber over Pacific (Default)
Posted by [personal profile] umbo
I'm so sorry for your loss.

on 6/23/15 02:44 am (UTC)
Posted by [personal profile] curiouscorvid
Oh - that's so complicated and stressful. (HARDEST HUG)
And don't worry about replying. You've got enough going on, but you're in my thoughts!

on 6/23/15 04:37 am (UTC)
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Posted by [personal profile] st_aurafina
Oh, man, I'm so sorry. *sending love*

on 6/23/15 04:45 am (UTC)
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on 6/23/15 05:01 am (UTC)
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Posted by [personal profile] danceswithgary
My sympathies for your loss. *hug*

on 6/23/15 09:59 am (UTC)
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Posted by [personal profile] franzi1981
I'm so sorry for your loss.

on 6/23/15 04:26 pm (UTC)
hyperfocused: Rodney hanging by ankle from tree in "Runner" caption reads "Crap!" (Crap!)
Posted by [personal profile] hyperfocused
I'm so sorry (for all of it.)! It seems we share the 15 year age gap thing. My brother is 62, my sister just turned 60.

on 6/23/15 05:16 pm (UTC)
tiamatschild: Painting of a woman resting on a bridge railing - she has a laundry bag beside her (Default)
Posted by [personal profile] tiamatschild
*huuugs* I'm so sorry.

on 6/24/15 05:09 am (UTC)
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Posted by [personal profile] dragonfly
OMGosh, my aunt died last night and she's been estranged from the family because of the asshole she's partnered with these last ten years. Major hugs from me!

on 6/24/15 05:49 am (UTC)
skieswideopen: A green-and-white umbrella sits on the ground (Umbrella)
Posted by [personal profile] skieswideopen
I'm so sorry.

on 6/24/15 07:06 am (UTC)
which: (Default)
Posted by [personal profile] which
I'm sorry for the loss of your brother, and I wish you peace and strength dealing with his family.

on 6/24/15 09:29 pm (UTC)
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Posted by [personal profile] clavally
Oh, bb, I'm so sorry, I just saw this! <333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333


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