This is my life

Heh. I'm glad it makes sense to you! This is what I see on screen; it's always been. I know other people get other things out of it, and that, as you say, is fine - in fact, it's totally fascinating. And no, you didn't sound dismissive - I'm just rather oversensitive due to - well, let's just say I got out of the habit of discussing characterisation in SGA after I got honest-to-God laughed at for daring not to see Sheppard as totally, completely, unquestionably gay.