*paces*

[kate]

I want to ask someone out. Someone I won't see in person any time soon to be able to ask. I... um. I don't have her email. Asking someone out in a comment seems lame. Advice?

I've never actually, with intent, asked someone out on a date. I'm nervous.

In conclusion, my cat is making wheezy-sneezy noises.

Comments

[absolutefiction.livejournal.com]

i don't have advice. i am so totally clueless. but i wanted to wish you luck. you're lovely and smart and fun. she'll be lucky.

[kisahawklin]

Aw, sweetheart! You are so sweet! I can only hope she thinks so highly of me. *squish*

[absolutefiction.livejournal.com]

i just thought of something. you could ask her for her email in the comments. that isn't lame, i don't think. and then you can ask her out in an email.

[donnadevane.livejournal.com]

Go for it babe! She'll be lucky to have so wonderful a woman interested in her. Maybe one day I'LL be so fortunate. In the meantime, have no fear! I love you, and I can't wait to see you again--hopefully it will be soon!

*Smoochies*

[kisahawklin]

Aw. *blush*

I see now that this post TOTALLY looks like me fishing for compliments. It wasn't intended that way, but hell. I'm going to take them. *beams*

I am so busy for the next couple of months (following the band around for a while, then family commitments), but we should definitely plan something before school is out. When are you coming to moot next?

[kisahawklin]

But then... won't she know...

Oh wait. Like, on a post of hers? I could ask for her email?

Still, if'n she reads the f-list it'll still be totally obvious, won't it?

*facepalm*

Maybe I'll get lucky, she'll comment here, and I can just ask her in these comments, and it won't seem so lame.

That's still lame, isn't it?

[absolutefiction.livejournal.com]

if she comments here and you ask her here, it'll be totally sweet. so sweet. and if she's not into it (but she so probably is) it doesn't matter how you do it. i hope she comments here!

[kisahawklin]

I hope it's sweet, and not completely embarrassing. This is so complicated. *headdesk*

And you know, I can't tell you how much I wish I had gotten to know you while I was still on your coast. Why don't you move to this one?

[absolutefiction.livejournal.com]

isn't that just such a bummer? and i wish moot lasted longer! i've got to go back and spend more time with you people and all the little white dogs!

[kisahawklin]

Definitely. You must come to more moots. I can't tell you how wonderful it is to spend time with such awesome people like you. :D

[absolutefiction.livejournal.com]

aw. thank you, honey. i feel the same way. it was very hard to leave. i will definately be visiting again. and it feels great to be welcome there. thank you again!

[kisahawklin]

Glad to hear it. You are always welcome in Baltimore. I do understand that right now, that's me offering sumbitch and abundantlyqueer's hospitality, but soon enough it will be me offering my own as well, and you're welcome anytime. *squish*

[absolutefiction.livejournal.com]

aw thank you! yeah, is it right that you recently found a place?

[kisahawklin]

There are many things floating around in the ether, but nothing definite yet. It won't take me long though, I don't like to put people out for long, even people as wonderful as Nina and Bizz.

[absolutefiction.livejournal.com]

good luck to you. i bet you get a great place. just look at what molly found!

[kisahawklin]

I know! It's the best thing EVER.

[ktnb81.livejournal.com]

I assume she has an LJ, and is on your flist? If you're ever feeling extraordinarily brave, you can always try this (http://twinkledru.livejournal.com/738293.html). :D

[gayalithiel.livejournal.com]

Wow. I have no advice. I'm still just waking up, heh. But I hope it works out well for ya! I should, perhaps, email you, eh? Yes, I think I shall...

[crazybutsound]

Ooooo, this is exciting! But unfortunately, I have no advice because I've never asked anybody on a date (and we don't date per se here, we're weird like that, lol). But I'm sure any way you do it she'll totally go for it. I'll be rooting for you at any rate! ;-)

[kisahawklin]

Yes, and yes, and OMG, that is the best thing EVER. I'm not that brave, and we don't know each other particularly well, so I'm going for the whole formal date option because... because I want to be able to pay for everything and get a kiss at the end? *muses on inner male chauvinist*

[kisahawklin]

YES YES YES YES you should, OMG where are you? *whines*

[kisahawklin]

I've never... I think I have been on, like, one official date. I know there are people who formally date (one of my sisters in particular) and stuff, but I tend to... erm... 'fall into' people. And I just want to go reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeally slow and I think a formal date is the perfect option.

People don't date there? Where is that? Your workplace, your community, your country? I'm curious!

[crazybutsound]

Lol, by "here" I mean France. I mean, it's not to say we don't go out with people or anything but there's no system or word for it. You meet people wherever, you hook up, there's a chance no actual "dating" will happen until after you're already together. And if someone asks you out for a drink, since we have no word or system, you never know whether it's a "date" or just someone asking you out for a drink because they're going out and you make for good company. Which also means that blind dating is a foreign concept here entirely, lol.

[donnadevane.livejournal.com]

I have no idea! I'm hoping to get down there in April, but it really depends on whether or not I have anyone visiting me that first weekend, and if I can get transportation. I can't do first weekend of May cause of finals.....although....hmmm.....we'll see....and other than that, I'll be away at home until September. GAH! *Cries* I will make this work, somehow.

[soleta.livejournal.com]

aw, kisa, who would say no to you? ♥

[kisahawklin]

And I will be in Chicago in April... following the band around. I guess I'll just have to plan a trip to visit you separately. Maybe... hrm. Actually my schedule is pretty full until May. Too close to finals?

Where is home? Maybe I could visit you over the summer?

[kisahawklin]

Huh, really? That's really more the way most of my friends are, but I know that there is a more formalized date culture out there (at least in the States).

Blind dates are the worst idea EVER, in my opinion. I'm pretty good with conversation, but talk about the way to put tons of pressure on someone. Oh, the other worst idea ever? Dating TV shows. I mean jeez.

[kisahawklin]

Um, I'm glad to hear you say that, lovely. Because I'm about to get over my fear of the lame and say (er, type)...

Wanna go out with me sometime? Dinner and a movie, something like?

[soleta.livejournal.com]

I'd love to. :D

[bygonepie]

OH OH OH I saw and yay and I hope you have so much fun and you deserve the bestest and squee and all that junk.

*big hearts*

[kisahawklin]

Eeeee!

I... am sitting here staring at her response, trying to find something clever or interesting or just NOT STUPID to say, and failing. Miserably.

Also, I'm supposed to let you know someone's AIM username. I'll email you. :D

[bygonepie]

got it ;)

*WHEEEEEEEEE SQUISH LOVES OMG YAYES*

[kisahawklin]

Hee. Cutie. I must compose things. Like comments and emails and. Gah. *pulls hair out*

[bygonepie]

HAHAHA

It's fine. You just type... "Y-A-Y" and "When do I pick you up?" and and yeah...

♥

[kisahawklin]

I've been sort of staring at this, trying to formulate a clever (or at least not stupid) response for approximately four hours now.

I give up. Yay, and more yay, and OMG YAYE!

In other news, I keep making icons because I don't seem to have ones that fit what I'm trying to say. So thanks for that, I may eventually fill my 100 slots.

[kisahawklin]

P.S. I have also been hedging over an email to you for these same 4 hours. I'm assuming I'm going to go give up on that too, and flail about and gush and hopefully something useful will come of it.

[spillingvelvet.livejournal.com]

*preens*

[knitting-hobbit.livejournal.com]

*agrees with absolutefiction* <-- absolutely!