Oh, huh. Okay - see, I could totally buy that. But I would never have thought of it on my own; the canon we see, interpreted through my life experiences, just doesn't say that to me. (As I have blathered on above about what it *does* say to me.)

But I totally get your characterization! I just needed more information. And sadly, it will probably never become my own characterization because it's so far from my own experiences (as I'm not into control. Of anything, normally). But that doesn't mean it's not valid! And neither does unpopular = invalid; just that people tend to see things from a different perspective, for whatever reason.

I don't know about you, but I am pretty open to new and interesting ways to think of things, and I think most of my dwircle is the same - I mean, I would never have even brought control up in the conversation, and now I have an additional vector from which to consider things. I'm *glad* you talked about it. But I'm sorry if I sounded dismissive of your ideas; that's not what I meant at all, just that I was coming from a different place (which, since I've said my piece, I probably should have shut up about anyway). <333